No one wants to appear inadequate. If we do, it has the potential to raise the experience of shame, and shame in it’s intense expression is like torture for a social creature.
We live in a world where we are deluged with images and sound-bytes which offer one opinion after another, all expertly expressed. Implied in that incessant presentation is a conditioning process which creates inadequacy if we can’t similarly respond. The expectation which is laid down is that we have to have an opinion, a thought, a clarity of understanding, and an unflappableness when presented with any and every situation.
We can train ourselves to do that, and in the first half of our lives we often do just that.
Consider yourself fortunate if you wake up to how those “thought-realities” are most often not based in direct experience, and as such, contributes to the continued wounding of truth.
Annabelle: “You speak from experience don’t you?”
Oliver: “What else do you speak from?”
Annabelle: “Bullshit, like most people, but not you.
The quote comes from The Collectors, written by David Baldacci.